They Are Not YOUR People

They Are Not YOUR People

As leaders, we are bound to cross paths with a variety of personalities, ideas, and perspectives. While this diversity is a beautiful part of leadership, it can also present a challenge: not everyone we meet is meant to stay in our circle. And guess what? That’s perfectly okay! Learning to recognize when someone is not your people doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with them—or you. It simply means you are navigating your leadership journey with intentionality, listening to your intuition, and curating the right connections.

“I am not for everyone and everyone is not for me.” ~ ‘Maven’ Miara

Trusting Your Intuition

One of the most powerful tools we have as leaders is our intuition. Sometimes, our gut feeling tells us that someone doesn’t quite fit into our vision, goals, or values. This doesn’t make them “bad” or “less than”—it just means they aren’t aligned with where you’re heading.

I’ve had my fair share of moments where I felt that internal nudge. You know the one: that soft whisper that says, “This isn’t quite the right fit” or “Girl run!” In the past, I’d brush it off, convincing myself that I could make this relationship work because, as leaders, aren’t we supposed to be adaptable and inclusive? Maven, I quickly learned that forcing connections out of obligation or fear of hurting feelings only leaves everyone drained and frustrated. I’m not here for it.

Not Everyone Is for You—And That’s a Good Thing!

It’s liberating when you finally accept that you don’t need to resonate with everyone you meet. The truth is, that trying to include everyone in your circle dilutes your focus and energy. As leaders, we need people around us who challenge us in positive ways, lift us when we’re down, and understand our vision. These people bring out the best in us, and we do the same for them.

When you spend too much time with those who aren’t aligned with your mission, you may find yourself questioning your goals, energy, and purpose. It’s not about cutting people off or ghosting them (please don’t use this tactic as grown women), but rather realizing that you both deserve circles that encourage growth in the best way possible. Das it!

Leave People Better Than You Found Them

Here’s the key takeaway: just because someone isn’t your “people” doesn’t mean you leave them worse off. In fact, one of the hallmarks of effective leadership is ensuring that everyone you encounter leaves your presence in a better state. Maybe that means giving them honest, respectful feedback, providing a resource they need, or simply letting them know that they are appreciated, even if they’re not part of your core circle.

You never know what seeds of encouragement, wisdom, or support you’re planting in someone’s life, and even when parting ways, you can do so with grace and goodwill. It’s not about creating enemies or causing divisions but about acknowledging the unique paths we each must take.

Keep Searching for Your People

The beautiful part of understanding who isn’t your people is that it clarifies who is. When you honor your intuition and clear space, it makes room for authentic, mutually beneficial relationships to come into your life. You’ll start to attract people who understand your vision and share your values. These are the people who will stand with you through challenges and celebrate your victories genuinely. They are your people, and they will make your leadership journey richer and more fulfilling.

So, keep seeking. Keep meeting new people, engaging in conversations, and learning about others’ experiences. But remember that not everyone needs to stay. Trust that your people are out there, and when they arrive, you’ll recognize them by how they make you feel—energized, supported, and understood. On my podcast episode 28, I share “How Leaders Cultivate Savvy Networks Through Relationship Building” which gives you more insight on building YOUR network. 

Another fantastic resource I’m currently diving into is the book Likeable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Desire by Alison Fragale, PhD. It’s a practical, fun-to-read playbook designed for women—and our allies—who want to excel in the workplace while embracing their full power. Packed with valuable tips, tricks, and strategies, this book offers guidance on building the confidence we sometimes find elusive. If you’re looking to level up, this is definitely a must-read!

Leadership is as much about connecting with others as it is about knowing who not to connect with. When you trust your intuition and allow yourself to release those who aren’t aligned with your purpose, you’ll step into greater clarity and strength as a leader and avoid the extra drama!

And always, always strive to leave people better than you found them. The world needs more leaders who uplift, even when they part ways. I hope you have the desire, courage, and capacity to be that leader.

How to Indulge in Luxurious Self-Care and Why It’s More Affordable Than You Think – Episode 29

How to Indulge in Luxurious Self-Care and Why It’s More Affordable Than You Think – Episode 29

Maven Miara discusses the benefits of luxury self-care for high-performing women. Luxury self-care is not just about indulgence, but about giving oneself permission to pause, rejuvenate, and invest in self-care. The episode explores three ways to incorporate luxury self-care into one’s life: having a mindful morning routine, creating spaces for serenity, and investing in experiences that enrich one’s passion or hobby. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to be intentional about finding and investing in luxury experiences that provide a sense of escape and indulgence.

 

Key Focus Areas:

  • 01:56  – Mindful Morning Routine
  • 04:20 – Creating Spaces for Serenity
  • 06:45 – Creating a Haven of Rest
  • 07:17 – Investing in Experiences that Enrich Your Passion or Hobby

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Embracing Luxury Self-Care – A Game-Changer for High-Performing Women

In a world where high-performing women continuously juggle leadership roles, entrepreneurship, and personal life, the concept of luxury self-care often takes a backseat. However, as discussed in our latest podcast episode, “Luxury Self-Care for High-Performing Women,” this aspect of life is not just a fleeting indulgence but a vital component of sustained success and well-being. This article delves deeper into the three key focus areas of luxury self-care, providing insights and steps to integrate these practices into your life.

Mindful Morning Routines: Setting the Tone for Success

How you start your day can profoundly influence your mood, productivity, and perspective. A mindful morning routine is a cornerstone of luxury self-care, offering a sanctuary of calm before you step into the day’s challenges.

  • Craft Your Unique Ritual: Your morning ritual should be a personalized oasis of tranquility. Whether it involves meditation, yoga, journaling, or simply savoring a cup of gourmet coffee in silence, find what centers you. This time is sacred – a moment to align with your inner self and set your intentions for the day.
  • Nourish Your Body and Mind: Choose a breakfast that not only satiates but also nourishes. Opt for foods that energize and uplift. The act of preparing and enjoying a wholesome meal can be a meditative and luxurious experience in itself.

Creating Spaces of Serenity: Your Personal Retreat

In the midst of life’s hustle, having a space where you can retreat, reflect, and recharge is invaluable. This sanctuary is where you can shed the layers of your professional persona and just be.

  • Design a Haven at Home: Transform a corner of your home into a serene escape. This could be a cozy reading nook, a zen garden, or a quiet space with calming decor. Fill it with items that soothe your soul – plush cushions, scented candles, soft music, or inspiring art.
  • Regular Retreats to Rejuvenate: Make it a habit to spend time in your personal haven daily. Use this space to disconnect from the digital world and reconnect with yourself. Whether it’s reading, meditating, or indulging in a skincare routine, let this be a place where you can unwind and rejuvenate.

Investing in Experiences That Enrich and Inspire

Luxury self-care also involves investing in experiences that enrich your life and feed your soul. These experiences not only provide a break from the routine but also contribute to your personal and professional growth.

  • Pursue Passions and Hobbies: Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. It could be painting, cooking classes, or outdoor adventures. These hobbies are not just leisure activities; they are a vital part of self-care, offering an outlet for creativity and relaxation.
  • Educational Retreats and Conferences: Attend events and conferences that not only align with your professional goals but also offer an opportunity to relax and network in a different setting. These experiences can be a perfect blend of learning, relaxation, and meeting like-minded individuals.

Luxury self-care is about honoring yourself – your needs, passions, and wellbeing. It’s about creating moments of luxury in everyday life. Remember, taking care of yourself isn’t selfish; it’s essential. As a high-performing woman, when you invest in your self-care, you’re not just rejuvenating yourself; you’re empowering yourself to be a better leader, entrepreneur, and role model. Embrace luxury self-care as a vital part of your journey to success – a journey where you don’t just excel but also thrive.

 

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Maven Miara (00:02.606)
Hey, hey, Maven Nation, it's Maven Miara, and welcome to another episode of Success With Saneness. Listen, I am happy that you continue joining me here on the podcast or video podcast. However you're taking in this information, I appreciate you being here. So this episode, we're gonna be talking about the benefits of luxury self-care for high-performing women. Now, I know probably when you heard the word luxury, you heard expensive, um, which can be relative, right? Expensive for you might not be expensive for me or vice versa, but I do want you to know that the luxury self care that I'm going to be talking about is not just about indulgence. It's really about giving yourself the permission to pause, to rejuvenate, to invest in taking care of you. That that's the biggest thing that I want you to get from this episode about luxury self care. Um, we give out a lot, high performing women, high achieving women. We, and again, I'm not ever complaining, saying that in a way of complaint, that's what we do. That's, that's, um, if you want to call it that label, everyone is not created or designed and Joyce is able to do that.

But we are most of the you that are tuning into these episodes or high performing professional women, high performing founders, entrepreneurs. So let's dive into three ways. You know, I'm always with the power of three ways that can help you really get to the essence of what luxury self care can look like for you and what fits your need as a dynamic high performing women, women.

Um, so the first one that I will say is, um, having a mindful, mindful morning routine. And you know, you, you might say, well, my ride, I don't really have a problem, uh, figuring out what I need to do in the morning and all of those things. Well, here's something that I would, I would encourage you, um, to look at back. Even episode, uh, episode 20 talks about

Maven Miara (02:24.558)
ways to create consistency. And in that episode, I go into more detail about the power of a morning routine and, and really how it benefits us. So if you don't have some form of a mindful morning routine, listen, I'm not saying you need to allocate 30 minutes, an hour, two hours. I personally started my morning routine with 60 seconds. Yes. One through 60, 60 seconds.

That's about as long as I could sit still, be still, keep my mind from thinking about all of the things on my to-do list for the day. I just started with 60 seconds. So if that's where you are, you're just, you're going to try to start on this journey, journey of having some form of a mindful morning routine. Start with just a minute or two and you're like, okay, that's cool. But what am I doing in that minute or two? Nothing. Just sit.

and B listen to your heart, listen to what it is that you, you really want to say to yourself. Maybe you've been so busy that you're doing the things. We can check the boxes. We can get the things done, but are you listening to your heart? Are you really doing things that speak to you that you find fulfillment with? And we'll talk a little bit about at the end about passion and, and,

fun projects and all of that, but your overall day, your overall life, your overall work, are you finding some level of fulfillment in that? If not, I would encourage you during that mindful morning routine is just to sit, to be, to listen, to listen to your heart. What are you trying to say to you? Forget all the other noise, the coach, the mentor, the Instagram people look, what do you,

want to say to you. So that's number one, create a mindful morning routine. And again, luxury. I do mine in my office and my office is pretty serene. I've decorated it and I have it just how I wanted to have a huge bright pink bean bag that are sometimes just kind of laying that bean bag and get my morning routine, at least the mindfulness and meditation part done. Can't stretch very well in my bean bag, but

Maven Miara (04:49.902)
What does that luxury look like for you? Again, my office is kind of my safe haven, my sanctuary, um, in my space, my bedroom is the other part, but for this type of work that I'm doing, the morning, morning routines and things like that, it might start in my bedroom. I might do my prayer meditation time before I even fully got to get out of the bed. Just a moment of gratitude, just to

Be thankful for another day, for another opportunity, to put my best self forward. So find that luxurious spot for you. If you don't have it, here's your opportunity to create it. The second one, creating spaces for serenity. We just led into that with me talking about where is your sanctuary? Where is it? Oh goodness, maybe it's in your car.

Maybe that's, you know, if you're in the corporate space or you go to a job that you commute to, maybe that drive to work or back home is where you turn off all the noise and you just get to listen to your heart and listen to yourself. Then I don't know, Maven, where your space of serenity is, but I encourage you to find it. Okay. Whatever that looks like for you. And then the third one is create

a haven of rest. You'll hear me talking these episodes about rest, getting some rest, making time for rest. Rest is important. All the things, um, investing in that rest is only going to help you create that haven a little bit more. And really episode 24 is all about how do you create a haven, your space of serenity at home. So check out episode 24.

I give you a lot more information about creating that haven of rest at home. And then the third area is investing in experiences that enrich your passion or your hobby, just a retreat. What is it that brings you joy? Now we have our work, right? But do you have something separate that is your passion that you're not trying to make money from any of those things?

Maven Miara (07:17.23)
And the third area is investing in experiences that enrich your life. Experiences. Now those experiences can be around your passion. Maybe, um, you like painting, so you're that's your passion. So the experiences that you're attending are going to is learning how to paint or maybe not even learning how to better paint, but just making time to paint for yourself. That's it.

You pull out your canvas, your paints, whatever that you need for that. And then you just carve out time to paint. Okay. If that's your passion or your hobby, that is not so much about making money. If you do make money from your passion, kudos, keep going. But I don't want you to think that you must make money from your passion or your hobby, but I do want you to carve out time to do that. What about retreats?

a retreat that's maybe it's an educational retreat. You're learning something or developing yourself in a way, but you are also because it's a luxury experience. You're getting to unwind to indulge yourself in things that are just for you. You've heard me say this before. If you've been listening to other episodes, the entire world is going to be just fine while you take care.

of you. So here's a question that I want to leave you with at the end of this episode. What kind of experiences can you invest in that not only enrich your skills, but also provide a sense of luxury and escape from your daily grind? What can you invest in that will bring you that? Now again, luxury means different things for different people, but I want you to be intentional to think about.

What, what can I do? Where can I go? What can I be a part of that allows me that luxury feel? So be intentional. Mavid listen, shoot me a message, drop a comment. Let me know what that luxury experience is going to be for you. Maybe you know about something that I don't know about. I haven't heard about and I might want to check it out too. So Maven, until next time, keep doing your BAM thing.