In the BAM (Bust A Move) and unBAM of our fast-paced lives, it can be easy to undervalue the significance of cultivating sisterhood relationships. For women, these relationships can serve as powerful allies, mentors, and friends. But here’s the twist: not all these relationships are meant to be lifelong bonds. Some, in fact, are seasonal. Let’s explore the intriguing world of sisterhood relationships, uncover why some are seasonal, and provide three key ways to foster these connections while discussing how to recover when things don’t go as planned.
The Seasonality of Relationships
Imagine your life as a garden, with various people representing different types of flowers. Some relationships are perennial, blooming year after year, while others are seasonal, bringing bursts of color and vibrancy for a specific time. Relationships often fall into the latter category. They might enter your life during a particular phase, providing essential support, guidance, and camaraderie, but eventually, their season in your life may come to an end.
1. Embrace the Essence of Seasonality
Just like seasons change in nature, so do the seasons of our lives. When it comes to relationships, embracing the essence of seasonality is crucial. Recognize that not all connections are meant to last forever, and that’s perfectly fine. I say to women, don’t view relationships like a ‘group hug’ because everyone can not and will not go with you. Some friendships serve as stepping stones, helping you navigate through a specific chapter of your life. Once their purpose is fulfilled, it doesn’t have to be a falling out or fight; it’s ok to let them go gracefully.
2. Foster Growth and Empowerment
While seasonal relationships might not last a lifetime, they can profoundly impact your personal and professional growth. These connections often serve as mirrors, reflecting your strengths and areas for improvement. They can empower you to step out of your comfort zone, offer new perspectives, and provide the support you need during crucial phases of your journey.
3. Cherish the Memories
Just because a relationship has a season doesn’t mean it lacks significance. Cherish the memories, lessons, and experiences shared during that time. These bonds contribute to the tapestry of your life, enriching your story and making you who you are. Remember that even if the relationship fades, its impact on you remains.
3 Strategies for Cultivating Relationships
Now that we’ve unpacked the seasonal nature of relationships, let’s delve into three essential strategies for cultivating and nurturing these connections:
1. Prioritize Quality Over Quantity
In today’s hyper-connected and digital world, it’s easy to accumulate a vast network of acquaintances. However, when it comes to real relationships, quality always trumps quantity. I often say my circle is small but it runs deep. Focus on a select few individuals who truly resonate with your values, goals, and aspirations. Invest your time and energy in these relationships, and you’ll find that the depth of connection and support they provide is incomparable. Maven, you don’t need a big circle to make it make sense.
2. Make Time for Meaningful Interactions
As entrepreneurs and executives, our schedules can be jam-packed with meetings, deadlines, and responsibilities. You know, the BAM life. Nevertheless, it’s essential to carve out time for meaningful interactions with your connections. Schedule regular catch-ups, whether they’re in-person, over the phone, or via video call. These moments of connection are the threads that weave strong bonds. My business besties and I have a strong text chain where all kinds of things happen – support, knowledge, encouragement, and most importantly PURE FOOLERY!
3. Support and Celebrate Each Other’s Success
In the world of high-performing women, success can sometimes feel isolating. Sisterhood relationships can be a lifeline during these times. Support and celebrate each other’s achievements, big and small. Whether it’s a new business venture, a promotion, or a personal milestone, being there for one another fosters a sense of solidarity and empowerment.
When Things Go Wrong: How to Recover
Relationships can encounter rough patches or even dissolve. Here’s how to navigate and recover from such situations:
1. Open and Honest Communication
If you sense a strain in the relationship or a misunderstanding has occurred, don’t let it fester. Engage in open and honest communication. Express your feelings, concerns, and intentions, and be prepared to listen. Often, simply addressing the issue can lead to resolution and deeper understanding.
2. Reflect and Learn
Sometimes, despite your best efforts, a sisterhood relationship or connection may come to an end. Take this as an opportunity to reflect and learn. What did you gain from the connection? What lessons can you carry forward into future relationships? Use this experience as a stepping stone to personal growth.
3. Seek Closure and Gratitude
When a close connection reaches its natural conclusion, seek closure with gratitude. Express your appreciation for the time spent together and the support received. Closure allows both parties to move forward with a sense of closure and positive memories. It can be done.
Check out this podcast episode with my guest, Dr. Nina, aka BeautifulBrwnBabyDol, as we dive deeper into talking about real relationships and navigating the journey. We always touch on lots of angles on topic and have the most fun doing it. Podcast link
You can also learn how these powerful connections can support you in being more accountable with an accountability partner. Read as Shalyce Tyson shares 5 Reasons Why You Need An Accountability Partner or Group, and I say she is probably already in your rolodex.
In the world of women entrepreneurs and corporate executives, relationships can be a source of immense value, support, and growth. Embrace the seasonality of these connections, cultivate them with care, and know that even if some are meant to be temporary, they can leave an indelible mark on your journey. Cherish the moments, nurture the connections, and let them empower you in your pursuit of creating success with saneness.